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Friday, April 3rd, 2009

by a very grateful Rachael
Ulaanbaatar, Mongolia

60% of the city’s population is without running water…is this Africa? Nope, too cold for that. Are we in a refugee camp? No, although we are living in a tent. Is this a medieval town? The distinctive smell pervading the whole area makes us wonder……

After a squishy-squashy bus ride, and at our ten-year-old guide’s command, we have disembarked and are following him up the hill to his home.

The road is no more than a dusty rutted dirt track. The gully beside is filled with rubbish, which apparently neighbours dump there under cover of darkness. A couple of communal toilets perch on the hill, although we see two young boys wee-competing at the side of the road!

Togoldor, more easily known as Todo, leads us into a narrow alley. A second whiff wafts past as we step gingerly over a melting muddy section, a rough wooden fence obscuring from view the source of the smell; the neighbour’s dunny.

Out of the darkness of the fence-sided alley and into bright sunlight, we catch the first glimpse of where we are going to learn so much over the next two days.

As I start to write, we are bursting with things to say, memories to capture, ideas to mull over. Our journals are a jumble of random thoughts, still in need of being processed. It was all so different.
Let’s start with 33-year-old Mungunsoymbo. Most strikingly, she smiles all the time, quietly hovering in the background getting on with the business of living and caring for her family. Like me, she bakes their daily bread and makes noodles by hand, using an identical pasta maker! Like me, she is concerned that plastic bags are littering the environment and has made her own reusable cloth bags for shopping. We both hang our family’s laundry on a line to dry. We both have countless uses for baking soda! As we work and talk together, we are always saying “Ah, me too. Same same. Exactly!”
But while there are similarities in our lives, it is clear to me that Soymbo’s is much harder. Every three days, whether under the scorching summer sun or sliding up snow and sheets of ice, she helps her husband haul 120 litres of water from the bore at the bottom of the hill. This water is carefully rationed. It needs to be boiled before being cooked with or drunk. It needs to be heated before being poured into the washbasin canister, which hangs on the splashback. When the undersink container is full, it needs to be emptied outside. This is your life when you don’t have running water or a sewerage system. And it makes her especially thankful for the fact that she has a washing machine for doing the laundry for her six family members – even if she does have to cart the machine from a building outside the ger into her home whenever she wants to use it.
She also has to keep a fire going all day. Not only does this require attention to the fire itself, but she also spreads out fresh cow dung to dry and then collects it up into sacks, one sack full a day. Cow dung, apart from burning cleanly and not polluting the environment like coal, and being cheap (in fact it’s free, unlike coal, which costs a bit and wood that is expensive), also burns less fiercely. The things ya learn eh!

Then there are some things that are just different. Maybe neither more difficult nor more simple. When I make the bed, it involves straightening some sheets on a frame and mattress and smoothing out a duvet. When Soymbo makes the bed, she bundles up the bedding used overnight and puts it on a shelf before folding up the felt mat on the floor. When I do the dishes there are plates and bowls and cutlery and glasses; a Mongolian family needs only to rinse out an already-licked bowl, one for each person. She has fewer dishes, I have running water. Bedtimes are different too. An early night for their family is 11pm, but the children sleep until 11 in the morning. Our children’s time clocks work about five hours earlier. Our host family graciously allows us an early (for them) night – that means everyone lies down to sleep at the same time and the lights are out by midnight. Exhausted, we sleep late for us – but 8am is early for them. By the end of the second day their children are falling asleep before dinner, tired out from their early morning. Ours are equally tired from their late nights! Different.

The late bedtime and sleeping arrangements (think sardines in a can), and the water restrictions are two of the answers that come when Rob asks everyone what stands out from this first ger experience. Other random answers follow:

  • inside it was HOT (about 28 degrees most of the time during the day) even when it’s literally freezing outside
  • they were always working – making food, cleaning the ger, feeding animals
  • the toilets
    Down the stony dusty hill about 50 metres away from the ger, is a small wooden structure with sloping roof. Even at its highest point it is too low to stand up in. But that’s OK, because the building is supposed to be squatted in anyway. When you’re as tall as Rob, you enter in a ready-for-action position! Two planks straddle a pit in which a brown offensive-smelling mountain is accumulating. By day it’s light enough to see the contents clearly. At night it is pitch black. Any time, day or night, the wind whistles around, chilling any exposed skin, especially when the mercury has dropped below zero! Ah yes, memorable experience that loo!
  • “There were lots of toys”
    The perspective of a four-year-old, who has had next to no toys for six months, and who has obviously forgotten how much has been left at home.
  • they were always smiling, happy and contented, but simultaneously trying to change aspects of Mongolian culture (like pollution, debt, healthy living, maintaining good traditions, education, gardening, civic responsibility, manners – philosophically big dreamers, these guys!)
  • the one-bowl-policy: everyone has one bowl. At the beginning of a meal it is filled with tea and everyone drinks. Then it is filled with salad or soup or whatever is on the menu. If you want another drink, you need to eat up first. Simple and effective.
  • there was a closeness. Hard not to be when you have seventeen people in a circle with a diameter of no more than eight metres. A toddler flicks through a book, a few kids play chess or knucklebones, a few more are chopping apples for a “celebration salad” (apples, raisins and mayonnaise), someone sits off to one side drawing, two little girls are washing dishes in a bowl of water…..we are together.

And together we took in these new experiences. Together we noticed that it was surprisingly light – with the covering pulled back from the glass at the top of the tent, sunshine streamed in. Together we noticed it was also much more spacious than outside appearances suggest. Let me take you on a tour.

You’re standing at the front door, the inside of which is painted blue, red and yellow, the outside covered with a thick layer of felt, slightly larger than the door itself to keep any hint of draft away. The metal door handle has a piece of string attached – grab this when it’s really cold! When the door opens you’ll feel a blast of hot air and if you look down you’ll notice a 30cm high doorstep. Be sure to step over this, not on it.
You’ll find yourself on some cleaned-every-day, but always-dusty rough-sawn wooden boards. Stop here and take your boots off – pop them on the little wooden shelf to your left. Then take your first step on the wooden floor which is covered with a felt-backed vinyl – stop at the washbasin and wash your hands. Three times. In spring the temperature is warming up and bacteria are multiplying rapidly, hence our hosts’ fastidious insistence on handwashing (which we try to accomplish with a mere trickle of water – see above for why).

Now you can turn around. Reach up and dry your hands on the towel hanging on a washing line strung between red-painted roof supports, which branch out from a central roof circle (this is partitioned into eight sections, four of which are glass and can be covered in winter, the other four still covered now). As your hands rub together, you might keep looking up. Tucked in behind the roof supports you’ll spy a world map, a couchsurfing notebook, some brochures and newspapers, some toothbrushes and toothpaste, a saw and a rope.
If you let your eyes keep wandering leftwards from where you are standing, you’ll notice an almost-two-metre-long unit made from more roughsawn planks. You may be as surprised as we were to discover the bottom shelf houses an electric oven (use it between 11pm and 6am and it will cost you half as much as using it during the day). The middle shelf holds the massive bedding bundle. The top shelf offers protection from small family members for such treasures as a chess set, musical instruments and Todo’s “special shoe box”, which contains his precious possessions. Spare space in this unit is freely shared with couchsurfers! Then there’s a “couchsurfing corner” – a glass-fronted picture frame holds coins from around the world, the family’s couchsurfing guidelines are displayed (they have hosted 30 groups of people in ten months), and a Kiwi flag is now tucked into the roof supports too.
Coming further round the room is a beautiful brightly painted chest – orange with two shades each of purple, blue and green, all in geometric swirly design with black and white accents. Containing treasures, it is out of bounds to children! On top sits a television and carved wooden framed mirror. Right beside it, providing a space for a computer to rest, is another a cabinet, big enough for the little children to climb inside to find their toys! You will also find felted wool mats and a small wooden table with seven low wooden stools, which are moved around depending on what they are needed for. Apart from two plastic potties, two electric lights and the curtains which hang down the walls hiding the three layers of thick felt and the wooden criss-crossed wall framing, this almost completes the picture. All that remains is the kitchen, which is somewhat reminiscent of a Lao kitchen in its simplicity.
The centre of the room is dominated by the firebox with chimney pointing straight up through the glass roof. The cow dung container, a poker, metal water canisters, kettles and pots (a cross between pot, wok and cauldron) sit nearby. The large blue plastic water bucket stands just inside the door, to the right. Beside it is a container of root vegetables, ready for daily consumption. There is a cabinet and wooden crate for holding a small selection of food and a few dishes. A pocketed hanger suspended from the roof supports holds a wooden spoon, ladle, fish slice, sieve and grater. Wooden chopping boards, a pasta maker, scales, a thermos and 25kg sacks of flour and couscous are all that’s left for you to see.

Seeing this simplicity was one thing. Sitting around talking with the family was quite another matter. Our conversation was rich as we shared ideas about living. Thank you, Begzsuren and Mungunsoymbo, our first Mongolian friends, for a wonderful introduction to Mongolian life.

 

 

TRUST

Monday, March 30th, 2009

by an uncharacteristically impulsive buyer
Beijing, China

“In God we trust”, the official motto of the United States and emblazoned on their currency as a daily reminder, has its counterpart in China. Here bus stops routinely declare:

Aha, education is the answer to the world’s ills, a common misconception that with the right knowledge, we will be saved.

And in the meantime, there’s the other answer, already long-accepted in the West and becoming increasingly familiar in the East……in all the subway stations Glory Mall advertisements promise “The paradise of colorful shopping. One-time aesthetical experience of consumption.” If we can just buy enough, we will be in heaven.

And so we went shopping. Actually, we were always planning on a wee shopping expedition in Beijing as the little boys had not yet procured “dragon shirts”, which they had been hoping for. Checking out local shops when we arrived had proven unsuccessful and there were some despondent faces when they realised time had run out. You see, today was supposed to be Visit The Forbidden City Day, but with a couple of family members feeling under the weather and preferring to spend the morning at home, the Forbidden City became the Abandoned City and the clothes hunters took their one-time opportunity for an aesthetical experience of consumption. But not at GloryMall.
We transported ourselves across town on the fast, efficient, cheap go-anywhere-for-two-yuan (NZ 50 cents) well-signposted bi-lingual easy-to-use subway….to the Pearl Market, where we had been assured we would find all manner of clothes, including dragon shirts. Ask and it shall be given unto you! We came away with dragon shirts, long-sleeved shirts for the girls who needed them, a t-shirt for little boy who had accidentally ripped his, a pair of replacement socks for a Daddy whose favourite pair is riddled with holes and a replacement shirt bargained for by a boy and purchased out of his own money, because he had intentionally ruined a shirt in order to get a new one.
It might have seemed like paradise if we hadn’t had to “haggle like hell” (to quote Lonely Planet). There was a huge range of goods and sellers were keen to part with them, imploring you to “Step inside lady, have a look” “Small i-phone, you want which one?” “Please lady special price” “Children’s watch for you” “I have t-shirt, how many you buy?” “North Face jacket for you lady” “Underwear, you need new underwear”
In just two hours of crowd-jostling and hard-bargaining we were done, we had consumed, we were ready to leave Utopia and head back to the Hutong.

Such success raised everyone’s spirits (maybe shopping really is an elixir) and the decision was made to sneak in a quick visit to the Olympic Buildings. Smallest family member refused to put her boots on, so Mama none-too-reluctantly agreed to remain at home with her. (So often her whining is met with lollies here, so it was beneficial to be able to provide a less desirable consequence for a change). Mama and Baby then zipped out to buy gloves, but came back with jeans! When a shop assistant measures your waist, scrambles around in a pile of plastic bags on the floor under a display and brings out a pair that you insist is too small….but she insists more vocally that they are stretchy and will fit (at least I think that’s what she said)…..you try them on and they *do* fit…..well, what would YOU do? You’d buy them. Especially when they cost under NZ$8 and the skin-tight pair you left home with are hanging saggy-elephant-baggy on you now. So I splashed out in glorious consumption.

But that’s not the only shopping we’ve been doing. Last night we made our biggest purchase ever (apart from houses). Without even seeing the item, we bought something mechanical (ie has the potential to break) from someone we don’t know who lives in Germany and will take our money now. We’re trusting she’s not Nigerian!
Crazy? Maybe. Stupid? Quite possibly. Downright dumb? We’ll see. Completely Idiotic? Time will tell. But, worst case scenario, we’ll have a roof over our heads in Europe! Ideally, it will even take us many adventuring miles.
We had been watching motorhomes on E-bay for months, having ascertained that this was going to be the most fiscally responsible way to go (responsible – hmm, yes, well maybe buying a motor vehicle sight unseen does not fit with that descriptor). Last week we saw the best one yet in terms of layout, in a can-hardly-get-better-for-us location, at a price that was not too far beyond our budget….after getting the go-ahead from a GermanKiwi friend, who assured us the fine print contained no surprises, we emailed the Seller and asked if he could hold it for us for six weeks, whether he would be willing to sell to us (some haven’t been up til now) and all manner of little questions that Seemed Necessary To Ask To Make Us Feel A Little Responsible. Everything came together positively. The only factor holding us back was (as usual) the price. Should we use the SOFORT KAUFEN (BUY NOW) and perhaps pay more or bid on the auction and maybe get it at a lower price – or possibly miss out if bidding went too high or someone else snaffled up the buy now bargain? So we slept on it. By the morning we realised we would be more disappointed at missing out than paying a wee bit extra. So we hit SOFORT KAUFEN.
But we were not entitled to buy as we were registered in New Zealand. AAGGHH! The time difference meant Seller was tucked up snugly in bed, blissfully unaware of our predicament while we were trying all manner of options to overcome this obstacle,  attempting worldwide solutions, with not a skerrick of success.  When we had exhausted all possibilities we hit Tiananmen Square and put das Womo out of mind.
Fast forward to the afternoon. Come home. Check computer. No word from Seller. Another bid is placed on the auction. Spend afternoon checking email again and again and again and again!
Go out for dinner.
Return. Bidding is heating up. Eleven other people want this baby! Check email. Seller has been able to fix the we-live-in-New-Zealand-problem, allowing us to “click”. Without further ado, without leaving time for second thoughts or are-you-sure-s or do-you-really-think-we-should-s, we SOFORT KAUFEN. Wir haben ein Womo gekauft!
We trust it’s not a lemon.

Any ideas what we should call her?
The latest addition to the family was called “Dumpling”,
so we are obviously in need of some assistance!
(that was a soft toy dog, not a baby – heehee)

Snow on the Square

Sunday, March 29th, 2009
by an adult who thought it was pretty cool too Beijing, China Never mind the cultural or historical significance of standing in Tiananmen Square, facing the Forbidden City, it was SNOWING!!!!!! So they may not have been the biggest snowflakes, and they ... [Continue reading this entry]

north south east and west

Wednesday, March 25th, 2009
by the Mama, who listens keenly all night on the overnight train from Xi’an to Beijing, China At a crossroads. That’s what it feels like. We’re onto our last China leg, the ninth stop in seven weeks. We’re leaving Xi’an, the easternmost ... [Continue reading this entry]

*unedumacated*

Wednesday, March 18th, 2009
by Rach Shanghai, China

 

When we were planning our northern China leg we had no idea what there was to see or do in Shanghai. In fact, if it were not for the fact that ... [Continue reading this entry]

Museum Mecca

Sunday, March 15th, 2009
by Rachael, who enjoys history much more than science Hong Kong

You name it, there’s a museum about it here. From Dr Sun Yat Sen to Coastguard Services, from police to science to history. And ... [Continue reading this entry]

*magical*

Friday, March 13th, 2009

By Rach (who left her knitting at home this day) Hong Kong “It was worth lots of ice creams,” Lboy8 commented as we strolled away from the most breathtaking fireworks display. Boom after boom of colour had sprinkled and spiralled ... [Continue reading this entry]

1-2-3 a-b-c

Wednesday, March 11th, 2009
by Mama-Teacher Hong Kong (back in Kowloon) It almost felt like a New Zealand kind of learning day today. When I popped down to the bakery to pick up our lunch goodies (OK, so maybe not entirely NZ-ish!), a biggish boy accompanied ... [Continue reading this entry]

slowed to a stop

Monday, February 23rd, 2009
started by Rach, who is sick in bed, and Rob, who finished it off Yangshuo, China Some days we slow down, sometimes coming to a complete standstill. Today, was such a day; stopped for the Mama, but only slow for the children. Kboy10 was ... [Continue reading this entry]

papparazzi

Tuesday, February 17th, 2009
by the lady, who has given birth to eight full-term children ;-) Guilin, China All through Laos and Cambodia, people frequently compared New Zealand to China, asking, "Are you ALLOWED so many? Your country is not like China?" We had wondered what ... [Continue reading this entry]