Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as…
A stolen line from Blur’s “Parklife”…but I mean to talk to you today about confidence, fear and…well lets just start with those two shall we?
We all have so much fear in our lives that our confidence takes a hit. Some of us manage that fine and dandy but some of us don’t. It seems there are ways to overcome our fears and improve our confidence but this idea of managing our fear is damage limitation at best. What we really need to do, really and truely, is to find out what our individual talents are and then build on those talents to develop our skills as these are our strengths folks.
According to some, our “neural net” is made up of billions of interconnects but only up to the age of around 16 when all of a sudden our “net” loses millions and millions of unused links. The reason for this is so we develop our own unique personality and along with that comes a sort of pre-programmed structure upon which we make thousands of decisions each day.
These decisions are primarily in line with our personality. We choose the path that we “feel” is the right one for us, makes us happy or makes others happy or indeed in some cases, makes others sad. Many decisions are instantaneous and require no real thoughts but are more or less reactions to a situation. Still, these decisions are made almost subconsciously by our little interconnects in our brain that are once again pre-programmed.
Yes, we can still learn and aquire new skills and behave in many diverse ways, we are not robots after all, but we are inherently set up to behave a certain way as we grow older.
This, even though it may not seem it, is very good news. It means that we have certain abilities, talents that make us function to a very high level indeed. It appears to me that once we recognize these talents and nurture them, we can then use them to the best of their, and ergo “our”, ability.
To use our talents every day would surely make us happier and more productive. Many companies are recognizing this. However, it is singularly more important for us as humans to recognize our talents and use them in jobs that are suited to those talents. Do you agree?
This topic is a very interesting one for me. I do not profess to really know my talents at this point but I will surely know them very soon.
If you are interested in the idea of developing your talents and those around you then I suggest reading “Now, Discover Your Strengths” by Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton. It is slightly more motivational than practical but aren’t most books, ideas, concepts?
The main thing is to improve your situation and that of those around you and this is surely a step in the right direction.
Please leave your comments on this subject. I would like to know what others think about it.
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