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Sunday, December 31st, 2006

I’m writing this entry a bit late. It’s December 31 and I’ve finally come up for air here in Boston. Felt that I needed to catch you up on everything before 2007 rolls around. So let’s get on with it, starting with my final weekend in Madrid…

Got off the train in Madrid’s Atocha station, and got a ride from Ken’s sister-in-law Pilar and her boyfriend Nacho. Nacho…I love it. I think it’s a nickname – hopefully it is. His full name is probably something like Ignacio. They dropped me off on Calle Atocha, just steps from my beloved Hostal Matute. Walked up the time-worn stairs and up to the front desk, where the familiar fellow there gave me the same room #5 I’d had the previous weekend. Hostal Matute is a real home away from home and I highly recommend it if you’re ever in Madrid.

I first stayed there in the early 90’s, at the behest of my friend Don. And I’ve gone back there numerous times over the years. Two years ago I stayed there before Ken’s wedding in Cordoba, and I saw Senor Gonzalez, the proprietor, who had aged visibly and was using a cane. He seemed to remember me from many years before, and I was happy to have that little link with the past. This time, I wondered if he was still alive and kicking. After checking in and getting my key, I walked down the hall and almost walked right into the senor himself, who looked hale and wasn’t using a cane. He welcomed me back and we chatted for a few minutes. Made me feel very much at home and welcome here…

My mellow mood was shattered a few minutes later when I checked email. Brother-in-law Dave, slated to come get me in Boston when I landed, had sent me a provocative email which provided a weblink. The link was entitled something like ‘British Airways cancels all flights for two days Heathrow in chaos.’ My trip to Boston comprised flying through London…never a great idea, but that was all I could get on my round-the-world cheapo ticket. I clicked through and found that London was completely fogged in and BA was scrambling to react. It was now Thursday…I was flying Saturday afternoon…no news was available for two days hence. That made me a bit tense…but not surprised. Traveling in the winter – especially around Christmas – is something I detest. I don’t have a great track record during these times…something random generally seems to happen. This time I was pretty calm, I just kept up to date on the BA website and did what I could to stay on top of this.

Went out that night with a bunch of Madrid friends, whose brief bios follow:

-Manuel: old friend from Monitor Group in Boston and Asia. Left the firm a few years ago, we’ve stayed in touch since.

-Paloma: old friend, we met at a wedding in the US many years ago. She’s a musician and good fun to converse with.

-Enrique and Marta: a cool couple I met in Burma this year. He’s a lawyer, she’s an investment banker. Both very well-traveled and impressively intrepid.

We all met at Cerveceria Los Gatos, one of a string of excellent little bars along Calle de Jesus and Calle Cervantes in Huertas. These bars have highly drinkable canas (draft beer) and snacks – not typical tapas, but tostes, basically pieces of bread/toast with great toppings like shrimp, cheese, anchovies, etc. I could stand at Los Gatos and drink and feast for hours. We stayed for an hour or so, mostly talking and catching up. Enrique and Marta had just returned from South Africa and were under the gun at work. I was happy they carved out some time to go out with us, especially given the busy Xmas season and the fact that we had only met a few months before, briefly, in Burma.

We soon moved on to my other favorite place around there, Cerveceria Cervantes. Found a table in the back and had a good feast – along with plenty of red wine and beer. Sat there for an hour or so, till about midnight, and traded weird travel stories and upcoming plans. And although the group was one I had just cobbled together, everyone got on wonderfully and there probably wasn’t a single gap in the conversation the entire time.

They had to work the next day, so we finished up and left the place. Manuel and I were exempt from work – he’s in school at the Kennedy School at Harvard and had just finished his exams. Exams…there’s a topic that seems alien to me these days. Anyway, he and I went out to look for further trouble. Found a buddy of his and we sampled 4-5 other bars, all of them quite different and quirky. Madrid has some great old buildings and courtyards and the selection of nightlife venues goes well beyond the typical Irish bar setup. Every place we visited was absolutely packed. I suppose the Xmas season was a key reason – many offices were having their parties that night. But given my many visits to Madrid, I think that it was more the case that Madrilenos are night owls and like going out hard…and I left it was my duty to join them and experience the holiday partying fervor.

I must say that Manuel is a rare bird when it comes to late-night fun. He and I have gone out in Tokyo and other Asian cities, and he truly seems in his element in a bar, surrounded by people, with the music blaring and drinks flowing. And his enthusiasm is definitely infectious – he always seems to have a woman on his arm at some point in the evening. I can admire that, and enjoy hanging out with him. The night was a bit of a blur, but I seem to recall some odd conversations in a variety of languages, fueled by rum and cokes and beer. And at about 5 a.m. I started stumbling ‘home,’ unable to find a taxi and with miles to go before I slept. The streets were packed with people and I made a mental note to spend more time in Madrid – not many cities have that sort of energy. It was pretty cold for Madrid…but at least it helped prepare me for my upcoming return to the Boston winter. Finally reached the hostal around 6 a.m. and promptly collapsed. Manuel was probably still going strong. I was scheduled to have lunch with Paloma that day…that was looking questionable given the events of the evening (and morning).

Got up at noon, having ignored a call (from Ken) and a text (from Paloma). Was happy to see that Paloma was cancelling lunch and instead proposing drinks for that evening. Perfect. Lazed around for an hour, checked the BA website and saw that the fog in London was clearing, but that things were still pretty crazy out that way. Still, my flights were looking OK and I left the hostal feeling decent about my chances of getting to Boston more or less on time.

Was starving…walked around Huertas and Atocha, wolfed down a pork loin bocadillo and some patatas alli-olli, a sure cure for a hangover. Mulled over a visit to the BA office in Madrid, to get more info on my flight…but really didn’t feel like torturing myself on my final full day in Spain/my journey. So I walked over to the Prado Museum, which houses a fine collection of Spanish and other art. I felt that was a proper and civilized way to spend an hour or so in these, my final hours before heading home…

The Prado is large – not as large as the Louvre or the Met, but still potentially overwhelming. So I decided to view only the works of Goya, who’s probably my favorite painter. I’ve seen a few Goya exhibits over the years – including a fantastic one in the Met some years ago, which featured several of Goya’s darker, satirical series of etchings – Los Capricios, for one. The Met exhibit was sponsored by Goya foods – a very nice touch, I thought. I’ve viewed the Goya paintings at the Prado 2-3 times, but it had been some time, and I wanted to take them in again.

To be honest, Goya’s earlier stuff leaves me a bit cold. Pastorals like boys picking fruit from a tree…or entertainers on stilts…nicely rendered, but kind of boring. That said, Goya did do a painting of two cats growling ferociously, about to do battle, which is about as close to real-life as you can get, and presages his later, darker works. Sends a wintertime shiver down the spine. Down, kitties.

I moved on to Goya’s pinturas negras (dark paintings), which are fascinating and grim. Goya’s worldview was shaped at least in part by the wars with Napoleon, which were predictably bloody and deeply traumatic for Spain. The 2nd of May and the 3rd of May are direct portraits of the violence of the time and are well-known. I like those two…but prefer the more allegorical stuff he created. Saturn devouring his son…two boys/men dueling with slingshots…old men eating like ghouls from an H.P. Lovecraft tale…grim religious (witchcraft?) festivals…so awesomely foreboding and brutal.

I wondered where his series Los Capricios and Los Desastres are these days. Should look ‘em up on the web. I just love the satire in some of Goya’s works. One of his pieces from those series is called ‘Asi Su Abuelo’ or ‘So Was Your Grandfather,’ and depicts a human with a donkey’s head perusing a photo book of his ancestors and laughing manically…of course, all of the photos of his relatives show humans with donkey (ass) heads. Fitting commentary on the general idiocy of the human race…

Really enjoyed spending time in the Prado, amongst Goya’s dark visions. Then went out into the bright winter light and walked up to the hostal. Thought about working out…but took a quick nap instead. My back was a bit sore and my workout clothes were soggy and pungent. Didn’t really sleep, but at least let my body and mind wind down for an hour in preparation for one final night of fun in Madrid.

Paloma and I met near the Neptune Fountain and spent a few hours walking around Huertas, ducking into wine bars and other tempting establishments. We’ve known each other since around 1993, when we met at a mutual friend’s wedding. The next time we saw each other, randomly enough, was at a radio station music festival at RFK Stadium in Washington, D.C., an event so long ago and so surrounded by beer-induced haze that it seems like something out of a Goya painting. I’ve seen Paloma each time I’ve visited Madrid over the years, and I think we’re a good measuring stick for each other – we have ‘longitudinal data’ about each other’s lives. Had a good chat, as always, and thought it was a nice way to spend my last night in Madrid. Given the likely mayhem of my flights the next day, as well as the previous night’s craziness with Manuel, I wanted to take it semi-easy, so we parted ways around midnight and I hit the hay. An hour or so later, the phone rang – it was Manuel, out at the bars and requesting my company. I was sorely tempted…but was too comfortable and lazy to move. Told him to text me if/when he moved to the next bar, but I had already decided to stay put and get some rest. And that was, in retrospect, a good idea.

Got up the next day with some trepidation. Felt that way largely because of the fog in London…but also because my trip was coming to an end and I wasn’t sure how to feel about it. More about that later…

Took a cab to Barajas Airport, didn’t feel like negotiating the rail system or the bus. Got to the airport 3 hours in advance, desperately hoping to avoid holidays lines and to get both my boarding passes in Madrid, thus obviating the need to stand in lines in London, where things continued to be chaotic and where I might be racing for my connection. Checked the BA site before leaving the hostal…things seemed to look OK, but from experience I knew that any deteriorating in the status would occur closer in. Anyway, I was reasonably well-rested, certainly well-fed and lubricated, and ready for mayhem. Dave would be waiting for me in Boston, so I was hoping largely for his welfare that things wouldn’t get too ugly. I didn’t really have firm plans for the next few days in Boston, so I was relatively relaxed. That said, I was cursing myself for having a connection in London and vowed to never allow that again…

Things started smoothly. Line for check-in wasn’t bad…checked in my bag through to Boston, got my first boarding pass, everything seemed too good to believe. Precisely. The check-in clerk then told me that my London-Boston flight was ‘held’ in the computer system…and she couldn’t give me the second boarding pass. She asked me to return in 45 minutes and see if things had changed. I started worrying, of course.

Got a couple newspapers…ate a large bocadillo (I can’t get enough of the Spanish food – could you tell?), and hung out for a few more minutes. Went back to the counter…the clerk was about to take her break, but called me over and told me the status was the same. I worried some more. Soon after that, noticed that my Madrid-London flight was delayed for 50 minutes. Ate another bocadillo (diagnosis: nervous eater), then got on email and sent Dave a note telling him that things were deteriorating, and to keep checking the BA website – which seemed to be up-to-date.

My flight ended up departing Madrid almost two hours late. That left me just over an hour to change terminals in Heathrow, overcoming the many annoyances in between. As we touched down in London, I was amazed at the fog layer still over the city – it was like a blanket of clouds. We landed, then had to wait a few minutes for the bus to arrive and take up to Terminal 4. The clock was ticking and I had to get over to Terminal 1 for my Boston flight. Ugh…

Bus came…I got on it quickly…then, of course, the arthritic elderly woman took 5 minutes to get down from the plane. The ride to Terminal 4 took forever. Got inside, followed signs to Terminal 4, then got stuck in the mother of all security lines. There were probably 300 people in front of me. The first visible manifestation of the fog-driven mayhem still rippling through Heathrow. If I waited in this line, I could kiss my next flight goodbye. No airline staff were around to help…so I went around the line on the right side, spotted a Japanese family close to the front, jumped in front of them, apologized and explained my situation to them in Japanese, and they were more than understanding. Very classy folks. Got through security, then continued following signs to T4. Was unhappy to see that I needed to take another bus over there. Got on the bus…and waited 10 minutes for it to fill up sufficiently. The driver was compelled, he insisted, to wait until the bus was full. The clock was ticking. It was 25-30 minutes before scheduled takeoff. Ugh…

This bus ride was relatively short…only felt like a year. Got off, raced upstairs, saw the monitor and my flight gate listed there, and raced off to the gate. It was, of course, one of the very farthest gates possible. All the while during this process, I had sent off text messages to Dave in Boston, but hadn’t gotten anything back. Later found out that Dave had gotten my texts and had responded, but his responses never reached me. Ugh…

Reached my gate. Chaos all round. Ended up boarding 20 minutes late…then we sat on the tarmac for 90 minutes. Pilot promised (?) we’d make most of it up en route. Sent a final text to Dave, then turned off the mobile and sat back. Quite an exciting final leg of my round-the-world journey…too exciting, probably, but at least good for a story. Didn’t feel like reading – a rare state for me – so checked out the movies and noticed ‘The Queen’ was on offer. Watched that – and loved it. Helen Mirren was superb as QE2 herself, whoever played her husband was excellent, and even the guy playing Blair was pretty good. Not a product that could have been put out by Hollywood…or by Bollywood, for that matter. I rarely find time to watch movies, and get in most of mine on flights. Flight was only 6.5 hours and it was over before I knew it. But I continued to feel odd…I sat motionless, nearly without mental activity for part of the flight. It was a bit like Tom Hanks going home in ‘Cast Away.’ What would going home be like? What was I going home to?

Landed an hour late in Boston. All things considered, that was about the best outcome possible. Got my bag, went out to the arrivals hall, and saw Dave right away. I was home.

Stayed with Dave, my sister, and my nephew Jacob out in Hopkinton that night. Was nice waking up the next morning, going downstairs, and seeing Jacob for the first time in seven months. The last time I had seen him, he was at my Dad and Ellen’s place in Newton, very early on the morning I took off, crying and whining. He seemed more calm now…and he seemed happy to see me. Bon and Dave had told him I was coming back, but who knows what was processed in his brain?

My father called from Las Vegas, and we caught up. We’d see each other in a few days, as he was out west for a few days and I was heading to our vacation house on Lake Sunapee, New Hampshire for a few days. Jews are never quite sure what to do over Christmas and we generally take off for somewhere…Montreal, where my mother’s cousins live, New Hampshire, where we’ve had our second home since I was 11 years old, or other places.

I hadn’t been up to New Hampshire for many years. My mother died up there in 1995, and there are still some hard memories for me there. In Boston as well, for that matter. But my father had put the place on the market, and I wanted to go up there one more time to see how I felt, and if time had had any effect on my feelings of sadness associated with the place. I should also say that I had many, many great memories of my time there…I spent a lot of my life there and made some great friends whom I’m still in touch with. I remember water-skiing around the lake behind our motorboat…barbecuing out on the deck while the sun went down…going out and draining beers with friends at parties around the lake. All of the situations that kids get into, I got into up in New Hampshire. ‘Nuff said.

Got up there in early evening. Bonnie made us some dinner, we opened an old bottle of wine – I think it was a 1988 bottle of Bordeaux – which we decanted. But the wine had spoiled and we switched to another bottle of red. Sat around talking for a few hours…then hit the sack. I was pretty beat from the trip and from jet lag. Slept in my old room for the first time in memory – probably 7-8 years, I’d guess. As I passed out I briefly took stock of my feelings about being back in Sunapee. They were predictably mixed. I had forgotten what a special place this was…at the same time, the ghost of my mother seemed to linger and my moods were changing by the minute. But managed to get a good night’s sleep…

Next morning, decided to practice yoga in the loft to dispel some built-up aches. As I was going through some of the basic asanas (poses), I heard nephew Jacob (almost three years old) laughing and having fun a couple floors down. I couldn’t help but smile…it felt like life itself was being renewed in the house, and that sadness might not be the ultimate emotion there.

This was Christmas Day. As Jews, we decided to celebrate like real pagans…with a large Chinese/Japanese dinner up in Hanover, site of Dartmouth College. Before heading up, I went for a run and ran into my old friend Kathy, who was also out for a run. Hadn’t seen her in way too long – we made plans to catch up the next night. Kathy and her family recently moved back to NH from Denmark. They were mulling a move to Hong Kong, and I had provided some advice, but that fell through.

So we met the following evening, along with Kathy’s husband Chris and our friend Rich. Sat around their massive Xmas tree, had a few beers, and told some old and new stories. These guys had come to visit me in Washington back in 1991, en masse in a van. That was an insane weekend, the details of which propriety bars me from mentioning here. Made me realize how much I’ve missed these friends…

Bonnie and Dave had some friends of theirs, Gary and Stacey and their daughter Mia, up that night, staying at our house. We all went out for dinner at Peter Christian’s, a classic soup-salad-sandwich joint that I’ve loved for many years. It’s slipped a bit, but is still very good. I ordered ‘Peter’s Russian Mistress,’ a smorgasbord sandwich as fattening as it sounds. The waitress asked me ‘what type of bread do you want on your mistress’ and the table broke up in laughter. Indeed.

While waiting for our food I teased Mia and chatted with Stacey. When Stacey found out that I used to live in Hong Kong, she asked me if I had heard about the Kissel murder case there. I certainly had…it involved a woman killing her i-banker husband, who was apparently a real prick, rolling his body up in a huge rug, and sticking it in a storage room. Needless to say, not the perfect crime, and her trial was a big deal in HKG a year or two ago. Drug use, affairs, all that. She was found guilty. Stacey’s family knows the family of the dead fellow…and to make matters worse, that guy’s brother was also murdered, probably as a result of some US-based financial swindles. Nice family…

Went back to Boston the next afternoon. Moved over to Dad and Ellen’s in Newton. Had a good walk with Dad around nearby Crystal Lake, caught up with him about our lives and ‘next steps.’ Went out that night with Dad, Ellen, her daughter Amanda, and Amanda’s friend – went to a small comedy club in now-trendy Davis Square, Somerville. The comedian was a well-known local named Jimmy Tingle, who was hilarious. Left-wing humor, just my style. Bashed the Bush Administration and the general stupidity of the hoi polloi, but with a populist, non-elitist voice that worked pretty well. Had dinner afterward at Gargoyle’s, the first (and still only) upscale place in David Square. Good stuff. After that, even though it was getting late for Dad and Ellen, we walked over the a great local music joint, Johnny D’s, for some drinks and dancing. Hadn’t really partied with this group in a while, and had fun.

The next day I went and saw the movie ‘Borat’ with Dad and Ellen. Probably the funniest thing I’ve seen in years. They had already seen it once…and I will probably go and see it again soon. Highly recommended.

Well, that’s it on the home front. Hopefully I made a seamless transition, as we used to say in the consulting world, between continents and emotions. In any event, stay tuned dear readers…I will continue with my Slog and adventures and hope you stick with it as well. Am investigating other blog hosting sites, and might make a change sometime soon.

FYI, My near-term plans are set: I’ll be in and around Boston through early February, then travel to Asia again to help a friend start up a company. That should take about a month. After that, I plan to spend the balance of ’07 traveling, probably to 2-3 major places so that I can ramp up my writing and get into more of a routine for exercise, sleeping, socializing, etc.

This has been a pretty long entry, but I want to follow through on my promise to provide a few lessons learned (without trying to write the next best-selling self-help tome…). Hopefully these won’t be too obvious or cursory – I have given them a bit of thought. Here goes, in no particular order:

1. A smile gets you very far. But in times of conflict, offering a free cigarette works even better…
2. Don’t be overly ambitious when planning your day. The day is short, I’ve found, and you can’t do more than 2-3 things well before the sun goes down. This year I set a few major goals – exercise, writing, and working on my language skills. I did the first well, the second sporadically, and the third very rarely. Over the course of the day, particularly when traveling, all sorts of other things enter the picture: travel planning, sight-seeing, hanging out with friends, meeting new people, having good meals, sending emails, etc. Some days in Madrid all I did was walk around. And that was enough.
3. Related point – don’t rush. If you’re always in a hurry, you miss the key bits and make crappy calls. When I was up in Leh, hurriedly looking for my guesthouse and carrying my heavy backpack, I walked right by it and by the time I doubled back and found it, I was beat. When I was in Mumbai, I needed a SIM card for my mobile – and got one at a little newsstand that, in retrospect, was a questionable decision given that there are more respectable phone shops. I probably shouldn’t have handed over a photocopy of my passport to a dodgy-looking newsstand operator…
4. Most valuable apparel: tie between my Tevas and a plain white t-shirt from J. Crew. You can wear both (in warm climes) in nearly every setting, and they’re easy to carry and wash.
5. There are smart, resourceful people everywhere – but resources aren’t similarly well-spread. I met a lot of switched-on people wherever I went…some had the benefit of education and access to information, some didn’t, but even those who didn’t had their share of native intelligence and, because of their challenging environments, were especially self-aware and on their toes. Don’t dismiss people from downtrodden lands uneducated and incapable.
6. Flux creates adventure and stories…so don’t over-plan. At the start of my trip I tried to have flights and hotels booked at least a week in advance. By the end I was just walking into hotels and getting a room. You’ve gotta do the homework, and be aware of crunch times and costs, but it ‘costs’ more to worry and plan than it does to take it easy and play it by ear.
7. Dental floss lasts forever. I floss nearly every night and I swear I only went through 2-3 things of floss over the past 7 months.
8. Anywhere Hemingway frequented is now a rip-off. For example, Café Gijon (and Cerveceria Alemana) in Madrid are very nice places, but you can be damn sure they were far better value when they weren’t loudly advertising their Hemingway connection.
9. Please don’t take yourself too seriously. Nothing’s more annoying than having to listen or observe someone in the desperate and pathetic throes of self-importance. We’re all insignificant and should feel immense freedom from this state…
10. We Americans really need to get out there more. I met few Americans in the less obvious places I visited, and often felt like a diplomatic envoy fighting against the wave of anti-American sentiment – not so much from the natives as from other (European) tourists. It’s amazing to see the effect you can have on people just by being ‘normal’ and having a chat with them. Good thing I left my guns and ‘USA #1’ t-shirt back in Boston…

That’s it for now. Will post again within the week, before heading down to the Caribbean, where we’re taking my father on a 65th birthday cruise. Being on a package tour with everything scheduled in advance will take some getting used to. How will Mike do? Only the shadow knows…

Happy New Year, here’s looking forward to another random year of fun, adventures, and random mayhem. Over and out.

Circling the Wagons…

Thursday, December 21st, 2006

I can’t quite believe this is my final entry from the road…at least for this particular journey. I’d also say that I can’t believe that late December is already upon us – but I went back and scanned my earliest entries, and have two reactions. One, they seem like ancient history (did I really almost crash my rental car into a camel in Outback Australia?), and two, man, am I a crappy writer. Anyway, for those of you with strong stomachs and ample free time, I ask you to stay tuned, because I’m keeping the Slog going. That’s right…now that I’m finally able to string together nouns and verbs, why quit? Writing this scandal sheet has been the single constant in my life over the past seven months – besides heavy drinking, that is – and I’m grown fond of blasting out an entry every week.

I might make some substantial changes, beyond getting a decent editor, and will keep you posted on those. Oh Lord, when will it all end, you may be asking…

My annoying host site, Boots’n’All, has a limit on photo uploads and I’ve apparently crossed that threshold, so for this week at least you’re stuck with my text, no photos. Sorry ‘bout that…

When we last parted, Ken and I were about to head out of our beloved Hostal Matute and venture forth into the cool crisp Madrid afternoon, in search of adventure or at least a cheap glass of sherry. Ken had been up since 9 a.m. doing some work; I had dragged my ass out of bed early to write the previous entry; we both felt like shit given our bedtime of 3 a.m. or so. But there’s something energizing about polishing off a piece of work, and we were both ready to hit the streets. Ken’s mobile was ringing every few minutes and it became clear he’d be pinned down during the afternoon, putting out fires at work. I knew the feeling…and recalled one Friday in Shanghai years ago, when I had planned to do a call in the morning and then take the afternoon off. I woke up that day, put on a bathrobe, did the call, and then proceeded to get hit with calls and emails to such a degree that I was still sitting in my hotel chair at 6 p.m. in the bathrobe. So I didn’t sweat Ken his exertions…

We went into the Reina Sofia Museum, a cool modern structure that famously houses Picasso’s Guernica. There’s a lot else too – paintings by Dali, Miro, etc. – but I had to admit that I wanted to see the Guernica, it had probably been seven years since my last visit. So I went fairly quickly up to floor 2, room 6, and stood transfixed by the masterpiece for 20 minutes. And when I was done pondering the myriad horrors depicted therein, I investigated the many sketches and studies that Picasso made in preparation for the final painting. It’s safe to say he proceeded meticulously with the Guernica…every major image in the painting was worked up over the period of weeks or months. Made me think about the effort required for true genius…even those with ridiculous amounts of talent need to roll up their sleeves from time to time. Talent plus effort…well, that pretty much rules me out.

The Guernica is Picasso’s reaction to the 1937 bombing of the Basque town of the same name by German bombers during the Spanish Civil War. Not much civil about that war, or any other for that matter. The painting is probably one of the most disturbing interpretations of the evils of warfare – along with a few paintings by Goya, including Dos de Mayo and Tres de Mayo. I guess Spanish painters have a flair for depicting disturbing subject matter; the acquisition of this sort of talent might not be worth the cost, though. And after gazing at the Guernica, I couldn’t help but feel astonished at how commonplace, and basically acceptable, the bombing of civilians has become over the past century. And it hasn’t only been ‘evil dictators’ who pushed this envelope – Allied politicians burned out a hell of a lot of German and Japanese cities during WW2. I suppose that the murder of the innocent isn’t a new theme in history – Genghis Khan and his boys did their share of raping/looting/pillaging too. But one would hope that we’ve climbed a bit higher on the food chain over the past 700 or so years. I guess we haven’t; we’ve just built more dangerous killing toys.

What would happen if we sat George W. Bush down in front of the Guernica? Not for 20 minutes, but for 20 days…with his eyelids propped open with forks a la Malcolm McDowell in A Clockwork Orange. Wouldn’t that be something? Of course, he’d need an art history major to explain the painting and historical context to him…we could provide that. Do you think that might provoke a glimmer of understanding, or at least questioning, in the old boy? Somehow, I doubt it…but I wouldn’t mind giving it a shot. Of course, it would have been best to conduct this experiment in February 2003, before we started a war that has probably killed a couple hundred thousand Iraqis…

Headed out of the museum and walked up to Cerveceria Alemana (the German Beerhouse) in Plaza de Santa Ana. This place has been around forever, was a fave of Hemingway’s, and serves excellent tapas. Ken got nailed with a couple more phone calls, so I ate the lion’s share of a very nice spread of dishes…pulpo a la vinagreta, croquetas, jamon iberico, queso machego, and a few others. Washed down with beer and fino (sherry). Waddled out of there feeling like an emperor. Even forgot the feelings I’d had an hour before in front of the Guernica…

Ken caught a train to Cordoba to see his family and in-laws, who live there. I had decided to spend another night in Madrid – I was too relaxed to strap on the pack and get moving just yet. So I met up with a friend of Ken’s named Camia, who’s an architect in Basle. I met up with her, her boyfriend Pitu, and a few other partyers at Bar xxx in Malasana, a lively part of town. I was pretty tired…walking around all day took a bit out of me, I had gone for a run, and then had to find an Internet café to post my blog. I had planned to just stay out for a few cocktails…and kept thinking that as the hours rolled on inexorably. Our group lost a person here and there as we bar-hopped…but I hung in there, and finally it was just an architect named Pedro and I, at a late-night dance place near Puerta del Sol at 5 a.m. That wasn’t in the plan, by any means – I had a train ticket the next day (well, that day) for 12:30 p.m. I finally staggered home through streets still filled with revelers, reached the hostal, didn’t get as much as a second glance from the desk clerk, and got a few hours sleep before my train to Cordoba to meet up with Ken et al. Spain really makes a mockery of any and all intentions of moderation. And that’s why I love it. I really must spend more time here in the future…

Hadn’t been to Cordoba since October 2004, when Ken and Carmen got married there. That was a lot of fun, and I looked forward to seeing everyone again. And of course, Carmen’s family, the Penas, looked after me impeccably. They have a large family (six kids) and most of them are nearby. There’s always a mini-fiesta going on at their house, and I was happy to join in. I was also glad to finally get to see Ken and Carmen’s kids. Victoria is about a year and a half old, and Cristina is eleven weeks old. They’re adorable, and Ken and Carmen are very cool parents, as expected. Victoria had been sick, and had to go to the hospital that morning, but everyone hung in there admirably. Made me realize how much work raising kids is. Carmen was absolutely spent, but insisted on keeping a close eye on Victoria. Cristina was basically on auto-pilot, which made things a bit easier. I just hung around, eating, drinking, and cracking dumb jokes whenever possible. You know me.

We stayed up fairly late that night, and it was clear that sleep deprivation was a key theme of the times. Which is OK with me…I didn’t have much to do the next day. Ken and Carmen had a tougher deal…but both emerged reasonably well. I’m not too sure how I would do in their shoes; I think I’m too cranky and selfish to put myself through the wringer of total enslavement to the whims and weaknesses of small children. That’s not to say that I’ll never try it – I’ll just hire a small army of nannies and domestics to do the dirty work for me. And Ken and Carmen do have a nanny in London…and I think they really missed her while in Cordoba, even with their relatives to provide a hand. OK, enough of me writing about topics I’m ignorant of…

Next day (Sunday) took a train down Cadiz, a city rich in history and sights. I’ve been meaning to visit Cadiz for many years, but never made it there. The city is ancient, and may in fact be the oldest in Europe. It was originally a Phoenician trading post and has been around since around 1000 B.C., a bit longer than some of my mainstay jokes. It was an easy 2-3 hour train ride from Cordoba (itself a city of fantastic Moorish history) to Cadiz, and when I arrived I walked from the station to a little hostal near Plaza San Juan de Dios. The hostal was clean and cheap, and right in the thick of things. Which isn’t to say that Cadiz is party central. It was Sunday afternoon, and the place felt pretty sleepy, although there were a fair few folks hanging out at the cafes in the plazas and on the streets.

I spent a few hours walking the city and getting a feel for it. It’s a cool feeling to think about a place for years and then to finally go there…rarely do you really know what to expect, no matter how much you read beforehand. And Cadiz was no different – it was larger and more lively than I expected. People were hanging out on the seawalls and beaches – and the beaches are long and enticing, even in winter. It seems a ‘real’ place and not just a seaside resort – which is more to my liking. I can’t get too excited about going to the Bahamas these days…

So I walked around the perimeter of Cadiz, and stopped now and then in little bars for some tapas, beer and wine. I didn’t want to duck into any museums or churches…I didn’t want to hop on the Web…all I wanted to do was feel the fresh air/sun and eat some hearty food. And Cadiz was more than obliging.

I must say that Cadiz does have a provincial feel to it – it’s a long way from Madrid, literally and figuratively. The people aren’t dressed to the nines (lots of tracksuits and checked shirts), haircuts are only slightly more hip than mine, and the general level of human attractiveness isn’t sky-high. And my presence didn’t help in the least…

Went back to the hostal to relax, stretch a bit, and do some reading. Took a nap for 90 minutes or so. That took me to 9 p.m. Wanted to go for a run…kind of. Wondered about the availability of food after 10 p.m. Ordinarily in Spain that wouldn’t be an issue – dinner in Spain tends to be around 10 p.m. or even later. But it was Sunday night in Cadiz, and I wondered. Finally, my guilt got the better of me and I went for a run around the northeast perimeter of the harbor. Which was absolutely fantastic. Even at 10 p.m. in the winter, Cadiz is very pleasant – it was about 55 degrees Fahrenheit and I found it no problem to run in a wife-beater and shorts. Ran for a long time – probably 45 minutes. The footpaths in Cadiz are broad and clean, the sea air is fresh, and you can just go and go. In Goa I got myself into pretty solid cardiac shape, and now it was paying off. When I’m not in shape, I can only go for 20-30 minutes and I’m not happy doing it. When I’m in shape, I can go for an hour and feel like Superman. Or at least not Underdog. And so I sped around the Cadiz seafront and took it all in.

Got back, showered, and went out to stuff my gut. Which proved easy as pie. Or empanada, more accurately. Wandered through a few tascas (tapas bars) and sampled the wares. Finally ended up at one near the massive cathedral. Friendly barmen. Huge patas (pig legs) hanging from hooks on the wall. Nice selection of booze bottles. I had a plate of patatas alli-olli (potato salad with garlic mayo) and another of albondigas (meatballs). Washed ‘em down with beer and wine. Chatted haltingly with the old men next to me. Their accents are hardcore – southerners drop (eat) the ‘s’ in many words and I had to guess what they were saying. But it all seemed to go OK and we had a few laughs. Then I strolled to the hostal and collapsed for the night.

Next morning awoke with a need for churros and chocolate, a classic Spanish breakfast. Found a café that offered these, and wolfed them down. Chatted with a Spanish caballero (gentleman) who works in Berlin and was back in Cadiz visiting his kids. Invited me out with all of them later in the day, and I accepted. Walked out of the café, looked for a place to do my laundry but only found an ‘industrial laundry’ that wasn’t open to the public. Punted, and went back to the hostal. Just in time, as it turned out, because the churros and chocolate had staged a race through my GI tract and were at the finish line. Remind me to clear my calendar next time I have those for breakfast…

Walked around more of the town, continued to enjoy the vistas and fresh air. That said, you do come upon the smell of urine fairly often in Cadiz…it’s an old city and has that ‘lived in’ feeling, although to a much lesser extent that cities in India. And there are lots of places to get a drink. Perhaps the use of toilets is optional to the locals…

Went for lunch to a place my guidebook recommended, called Meson Cumbres Mayores. Remind me to figure out what ‘cumbres’ means. Anyone know? Anyway, this place was celebrating its 40th anniversary, it was founded in 1966. A year before I was born. That made me feel a bit old. I hadn’t really thought that my time on earth had established me as a dependable, solid ‘brand.’ But this Meson was trumpeting its 40 years and that was just fine with me. Because the food was superb – I had a jamon y queso montadito (small sandwich on French bread), a morros de cerdo iberico guiso (pork stew), and finally some of my fave pulpo a la gallega (spicy grilled octopus). With, of course, a couple glasses of house red. Man, I was stuffed. Since reaching Spain I’ve debated with Ken and other friends the possibility of getting fat here…make that the likelihood of getting fat here. And while one might get tired of the hearty yet basic Spanish fare, and lighten up after a couple weeks, methinks not. It’s sometimes said that Spanish food is meat and potatoes (and seafood), but superb meat and potatoes. And there are just so many choices that it would take years to get sick of the stuff. So if I were to live here, I think I’d need to run about 10 miles/day.

Speaking of which…after yet another nap, I arose at 8 p.m. feeling refreshed and ready for a run. My body clock was rapidly aligning with the local flows, i.e. everything is done a couple hours later than in most other Western countries. So I felt fine about going for a run, then having a late dinner. Put on my shoes and headed out to the seawall, in the opposite direction as the previous evening. And had another excellent run. This time I headed south along the Playa de la Victoria, which turns out to be a surprisingly lengthy stretch of sand…must be brilliant in the summer. As I ran along, I saw a few other runners, and what looked to be the local rugby side practicing right on the beach. Looked like they still had some kinks to iron out. I ran for 45 minutes or so, feeling fit and strong, despite the various challenges I was posing to my body and mind in the local bars and tascas.

I could have gone on for another 30 minutes, but when the promenade ended I doubled back and finally pulled up right near the cathedral. A little enclosed park was being used simultaneously by a soccer team and either a very bad school band or, more likely, a bunch of kids practicing their instruments in a place where no one would complain. I walked back to the hostal through the old town streets, passing dozens of Spaniards taking their evening promenade. I was full of energy, was looking forward to the night out, and felt something very much like joy.

Headed out after a quick shower, and sampled a couple new tapas places before going back to the bar I visited the previous night, near the cathedral. The barmen recognized me straightaway (your Spanish must be terrible for them to peg you a tourist that easily…), and one fellow, a large-ish waiter, was particularly friendly. Turned out he was from Berlin, and that surprised me a bit. Didn’t think Germany was exporting workers to Spain. We talked for a while, and went out for a drink after his shift. We shared stories…he had visited Spain ten years before and had fallen in love with the place, and was now a long-term resident. I told him what I had been up to recently, and he was amazed at my adventures. One drink turned into a few, and somehow we got our points across despite having to string together words in Spanish, German, French, and English…all in all, a random and fun night.

And that was pretty much my time in Cadiz. I didn’t visit a single museum or church, despite the bounty of such places, and the serious history of the place (Columbus had kicked off a couple of his voyages from right across the harbor). The only things I was inside all weekend (unfortunately) were bars and my hostal. But really enjoyed my brief excursion to Cadiz and am looking forward to another, longer visit sometime soon.

Took a train up to Jerez de la Frontera the next afternoon. Jerez is a center for sherry production, and is famed for its feria (fair) every year. I stayed in a great old place called Neuvo Hotel, which is one-star but situated in a classic old mansion and is more than sufficiently comfortable. Reminded me of Hostal Matute in Madrid.

Walked around town that day and night, sampling the local sherries. Tio Pepe is the biggest name, but there are dozens of bodegas (houses) where sherry is produced and you can visit many of them. I just hit a couple. I wanted to go get a haircut, and did so. I think the barber/stylist was new to his job…he didn’t seem too proficient and I kept an eye on his work the entire time. Turned out OK, but it was touch and go. Left the barber shop and ducked into a café to calm my nerves. This place, like many Spanish cafes/bars, has a real inclusive atmosphere – there are Spaniards of all generations in there. In most countries you don’t see much mixing of older and younger folks…but in Spain it’s not uncommon to see grandparents hanging out in a café with their grandchildren, drinking different sorts of stuff of course. Many years ago Ken and I went out in Madrid, and after a night of hard drinking we ended up in a sandwich shop, where we ate some amazing tres pisos (literally, ‘three stairs’ – a triple-decker sandwich). The proprietors were an older fellow and his wife, and they took us out after we finished our sandwiches. Had an interesting if boozy discussion with them about Spanish history and the expulsion of the Jews in the 15th century. That’s about all I can recall…but it was noteworthy in that a couple 60-year-olds took out two young idiots and treated them to drinks.

Took it easy that night. The next day, I intended to visit more bodegas and perhaps a museum or two, but got a call from Ken. He and Carmen wanted me to head back to Cordoba for dinner that night. I had to get my laundry from the laundromat, so needed to stick around Jerez until that evening. Visited the old Moorish Alcazar (fort) to kill some time. That was fairly cool…classic old Iberian/Arab architecture, surrounded by orange trees in full bloom (Cordoba has the best orange juice I’ve ever had). And inside there was a small museum with sketches by Picasso and Goya of corridas (bullfights). Good stuff. Went for a run around town, the streets were cramped and didn’t experience the same joy that I had in Cadiz. Then picked up my laundry, got my bags, and went to the train station to go to Cordoba.

Pulled into Cordoba a bit late, past 11 p.m. Ken had arrived a few minutes earlier, and he, Carmen and I went out to pretty much the only decent place in Cordoba still open at that hour. Had a good, filling meal – pizza, rice with vegetables, smoked fish, and beef of some sort. Washed it all down with a very nice, sparking type of sangria. Most sangria is made with crappy red wine and old fruit – this was far better and we drank two pitchers. Wobbled out of the place past midnight and went to the Penas.

Woke up the next day with a slight hangover, nothing too bad. Hung out with Ken and Carmen’s kids for a few hours, then walked ensemble into town for lunch. Went to the most famous local establishment, Bodegas Campos, where we had some red wine, fried eggplant, solomillo (sirloin – great cut), and a few other random dishes. Talked about our families and our plans for the next year or so. Was good to update each other on our lives and desires, and to compare notes. I could do that every day with good friends…I get more out of experiences like that than from visiting museums, working, etc.

Finally walked outside and hailed a cab. I had to catch a train to Madrid, as that night I was meeting my ex-colleague Manuel, and the two Spaniards I had met in Burma, Marta and Enrique. I was planning to meet them on Calle Cervantes, where there are some fantastic little tapas bars – including Cerveceria Cervantes and Los Gatos. The last time I saw Enrique and Marta was in Inle Lake, Burma…the contrast between that place and Madrid would be enormous. And I had some emerging plans for Friday night, including seeing my old friend Paloma and perhaps a couple other people. This was to be my final couple nights before heading back to Boston, and I wanted to make the most of them…

I’ll wrap up this post here, as I’m on that very train to Madrid. Next week I’ll fill you in on the final few days of this journey, and also share a few themes that have come together over the past 7 months. You’ll have to indulge me my dime-store philosophy, as you’ve gently done over the past few months. As always, I ask you to chime in with any feedback – insults, corrections, anything you like. And as I mentioned at the top of this posting, this Slog will live on – I’ve come to realize that the Slog is not just about this trip, it’s about my life. I sincerely hope that what I share with you in print is more interesting than my actual life…. Adios for now and see you next week.

Out of India…

Friday, December 15th, 2006

Quite an eventful week out here on the open road. I covered a fair bit of ground, all the way from Goa to Mumbai to London to Madrid. Reminded me of my days at Monitor…except that the stress level was minimal and I didn’t turn on my laptop for days at a time.

In Goa I made my ‘final rounds.’ Had an exceptional lunch of tiger prawns and Kingfisher beer at the Shore Bar on Friday. And while stuffing my face I continued to marvel at the oddly comforting vision of cows – uniquely Asian cows, many with humps – wandering around the beach. Who owns these beasts? Do they know where their charges roam? It all seems very lax and perfectly ‘susegado,’ the Goan/Konkani term for letting it all hang out.

That night had dinner with Prem Leela, the Spanish woman who’s into tantric sex – aren’t we all, when it comes down to it – then hopped on my motorbike for a ride. Going for bike rides after dinner in Goa has a certain post-coital feeling – like a cigarette. Really clears the head and cools the body. The early December night air was quite cool…the stars were out in full force…the fragrances were everywhere…I felt right out there in the middle of life itself.

Leela is an interesting character. A very strong Spanish woman who says what’s on her mind. She’s the one, recall, who told me she loves sex, but not normal sex, just tantric sex. Her name, Leela, means ‘love games’ or something similar in Hindi. Not sure if that’s her real name or not…forgot to ask. But she did tell me that I’m a bon vivant…and I think she’s mostly right about that, although I’m a peculiar angst-ridden Jewish version of the classic bon vivant.

The next morning I drove to Panjim, the capital, for lunch at Hotel Venite, where Benji the Aussie and I had gone a few weeks before. I first ate at Venite years ago with Jan and Hasmeeth, and just continue to love the atmospheric little dining room – it has a real old-world European feeling. Consumed a huge spread of roasted papads, crumbed mussels (better than it sounds), Goan sausages (you’ve gotta try these sometime), and a daiquiri. Waddled out of there incredibly satisfied. I think Venite is one of my favorite restaurants on the planet, many attributes come together superbly there.

Rode around Panjim a bit more. Got a final look at the awesome Church of the Immaculate Conception, the symbol of Panjim. Then rode up to Candolim and had some memories of the times I’d stayed there at the Taj Holiday Village with various assortments of scoundrels. I had meant to have dinner at some point at the very cool little Santa Lucia, run by a Swiss couple who spend their winters in Goa (good fucking idea), but just didn’t get around to it this visit. Really must next time round.

Drove down a side road to the beach, and lo and behold there was the River Princess, the huge barge trapped just off Candolim Beach. I had read the previous day that the government finally chose a company to get the boat the hell out of there…only took 6 years to make that decision. Now we’ll see what happens. The thing’s gotta be full of water, sand, and decaying parts – but I suppose eventually it’ll be out of there and the beach will be back to normal. I did see a small boat next to the River Princess, but couldn’t tell what it was up to.

Headed back north to Vagator. A fair bit of traffic en route…lots of stops and starts. A little boy in a white van in front of me kept sticking his head out the window and waving. Kind of funny. Eventually we got separated and I rode on.

Goa’s Portuguese past and sights made me think about the whole slew of places I’ve visited. And I realized how much I’ve been following around the ghosts of explorers like da Gama. Years ago I wandered around the Cape of Good Hope (South Africa) Park Reserve and was impressed by the austere white monuments to da Gama and Dias. I sat down and wrote a poem that day about spending ‘Yuletide with Dias’ (poem available upon request – seriously). Years later, I spent some time in Macau, another area opened up as a consequence of da Gama’s adventures. Now I was roaming around Goa, the first Portuguese territory claimed in Asia. Are there still earthbound puzzles yet to be discovered in our age? I sincerely hope so, that possibility sometimes drives me on…

It was still pretty early, so I drove past Vagator up to Morjim Beach, on the other side of the Chapora River. I’ve always loved this drive, the bay is on the left and there’s never much traffic. The bridge over the Chapora is fantastic, soaring views and a feeling of total freedom in space. And when you finally hit Morjim, you’re reading for a dip. Morjim has quite a few Russians – Lisa calls it ‘Morjimski’ – but really it’s wide open and feels empty. Not as cramped as the beaches south. Had a nice long swim and then drove back to Vagator.

This was my final night in Goa. I wasn’t feeling anything in particular – I suppose I had gotten my nostalgia addressed earlier in the day – so didn’t make any ambitious plans. And Prem Joshua had just returned from some gigs up north, I wanted to spend some time with him and the other ‘regulars’ around Bean Me Up. Had a very nice dinner with 7-8 folks at BMU, traded stories and jokes for almost 3 hours, took a calming bike ride, and said my goodbyes. I’ve become pretty accustomed to saying goodbye to people, yet still haven’t ‘mastered’ the art – whatever that might be. I prefer to keep it low-key. Lisa gave me a very nice stash of things, Prem gave me one of his two latest CDs, and that was that.

Next day I packed up my stuff – which, for the only time on this 7-month journey, was entirely out of the backpack and around my room. Had breakfast with the Prems – Joshua and Leela – in the quiet of BMU, which is basically closed on Saturdays, except for breakfast for us hotel guests. Here’s what the Prems look like:

Prems

Took a final ride around on my bike, and sat there gazing at the beach for a few minutes. Here’s my final look at Vagator Beach:

Vagator Final

Then got in a taxi and went to the airport. Was now feeling a bit sad – would really miss Goa and its unsurpassed combination of susegado, incredible beaches and scenery, hippie mentality, and fusion culture. Got to the airport, did my thing, and got a newspaper. And randomly enough, there was a full-page spread on Prem Joshua and his music on page 10. Called Josh and told him to get today’s Hindustan Times. I’m sure he was gratified to read the piece – which, like almost all such Indian features, was a real puff piece. Joshua sounded like the next coming of Ravi Shankar or the Gypsy Kings. And that’s perfectly fine. Check out his music sometime, you can get most of it on iTunes…

Seeing the Josh article felt like a sign, reminding me of Goa’s allure and of the friends I’d made there over the previous 7-8 weeks. I felt pretty damn good as I got on the plane and headed north to Mumbai. I’d be back to Goa before long.

It had only been a week since my previous trip to Mumbai, to see Prem’s show in Bandra. As we landed, I was again amazed at how the slums come right up to the fence separating the runways from the ‘non-secure’ areas. Even here, a full hour’s drive out of Mumbai, every bit of land is packed. And I later read an article about land developers in Mumbai building basic residential towers to house slum dwellers, in order to get them off valuable inner-city land and move them into more efficient ‘vertical living.’ Interesting idea…give the slum dwellers their own flat, in a building thrown up on a modest portion of the slum’s land, and use the rest for more lucrative ventures. Should work pretty well…rich Mumbaikers are used to living near their poorer countrymen – as all the land in Mumbai is inhabited by someone or another, and there doesn’t seem to be much of the ‘gated community’ trend you see in the U.S. As for the lifestyles of the slum dwellers, that’s interesting to consider. Some were quoted as missing the camaraderie of their past set-up, others praised the peace and quiet for studying and other activities enabled by privacy. I think it’s probably a good trend and let’s see how far it goes. Mumbai has some real hellhole slums and it would be nice sometime to see it become more of a normal place.

Had that night to myself, wandered out of my hotel – the Harbor View Hotel, on the Strand – and around Colaba. Saw a McD’s on the Causeway, felt a pang and went it. Had a ‘McMaharaj Mac’ which was a not-so-special chicken sandwich. The chicken didn’t offer much resistance to the incisors, and the spices weren’t that tasty. Vowed not to bother with McD’s in India again…

Unsatisfied, I walked over to Bade Miya, the godlike kebab stand, which as always was surrounded by people stuffing their faces on the street. Had a lamb kebab, which hit the spot. Now I was ready for a few drinks. Leopold’s and Mondegar were packed, wasn’t really in the mood to fight for space, so went into a place I hadn’t visited before, the SportsBar Express next to the Regal Cinema. One of the few ‘normal’ bars in Mumbai, nothing special, but it was clean and didn’t have the depressing feel of many watering holes in Mumbai, where men sit around in a dark-ish room getting absolutely hammered. This bar had loads of young professionals and I chatted with a few guys about the soccer match on the tube (Liverpool vs. somebody) over a Kingfisher, before wandering out.

Colaba is as crazy as ever. You see some folks at the end of their rope, strung out, eyes bulging, searching for something they’re not too likely to find. Or the price they’re likely to pay will by no means reflect what they’re about to get. I suppose seeing people like this reminds me of what I’ve got, and should in theory buoy my spirits…but I find it kind of sad that there are so many lost souls out there, some on full parade in the streets of Colaba.

Hopped in a cab and went up to my old ‘hood of Breach Candy. I had lived there in ’92, and always found the area relatively cosmopolitan and walkable. I’d heard about a pub called The Ghetto, which apparently opened up soon after I left Mumbai years ago. Got there, went in, and had a few gin and tonics. The young Indian fellow next to me sang along to every single tune on the sound system – Pink Floyd’s Shine on You Crazy Diamond, U2’s One, you name it. Very exuberant, and right in line with India’s current energy and optimism. I found myself singing along too. India is an ancient land, but somehow you don’t feel the cynicism and jaded mindset that generally accompanies experience. At least in the circles I was moving in here, it felt refreshing and new.

Left there around midnight and caught a cab back to Colaba. No bargaining, when I asked how much he said he’d use the meter – you don’t hear that sort of honesty and cooperation from Mumbai cabbies too often. Came to 100 Rupees and that was more than fair.

En route had a few thoughts. One was that India just well might turn out OK. I was far less sure of this back in ’92, when the reforms had just begun…and continued to harbor doubts during this trip, when I went by slums and was reminded of how raw India can be. Talk about extremes…there are beautiful restaurants and clubs like Indigo and Athena, and right down the street there’s an ancient and intractable slum of fishermen. You wonder when the pockets of affluence will reach critical mass and have a multiplier effect of sorts on the wider community…but at the same time you feel a rising tide of enthusiasm and wonder at what could be.

I also thought about the local women, and their general reticence compared with other countries I’d visited on this trip. Indian women are usually ‘untouchable’ – you know what I mean – and it’s not a country you visit to pick up chicks. Goa’s a bit different because of its culture and its tourist influx – but even there you generally learn not to expect to be inundated with women. That said, back in ’92 I had good fortune in this regard…I had a great girlfriend from Nagaland, the easternmost state of India and the point of farthest advance of the Japanese Army in India in WW2. I had actually been trying to track her down and see her. She had spent some time after Mumbai in NYC, and we ran into each other and hung out a bit here. But we had lost touch after I left NYC. I finally got around to Googling her, and it appears that she moved home to Kohima, the capital of Nagaland, a couple years back, and has opened a Chinese restaurant and nightclub there. I’ll try to give her a call, and perhaps visit her up there, next visit to India. Nagaland’s a tribal state and I wouldn’t mind checking out the scene there…

Got back to my hotel. The managers at this place are real masters of upselling. The rooms are decent value (for Mumbai), but these guys are always trying to get you to change money, or buy water, or go on tours of the city. I’m sure they make most of their money on these deals, whereas the owner of the hotel gets the margin from the rooms. I changed some $ and bought some water, and that was that.

Spent the next day walking around Mumbai. Johann had been telling me to spend some time wandering between Regal Cinema and Victoria Terminus, in the old and classic Fort area. I spent a couple hours on this Sunday morning, preternaturally calm, doing just that. And it brought back loads of memories of my time there in ’92, when I think I developed a decent feel for the city and its layout. This time I covered quite a bit of ground, and was again amazed at the tropical grandeur of the Prince of Wales Museum (now called something nearly unpronounceable to Westerners). Here’s a shot of this stunning edifice:

Wales

Wandered around for a while longer. The old colonial buildings were still impressive and real classics…cricket games were being held on the grassy maidans…it was just a relaxing, chilled day. See for yourself…

Cricket

Went up to Breach Candy again, to spend an hour or so wandering around. Very nostalgic hour…walked by my old building, where I spent 3 months. The second or third day I lived there, I came back from work and was confronted by the manager of the antiques shop on the ground floor. My flat was directly over his shop. I had left the A/C on, apparently, and some water was dripping down into his shop. He was pretty pissed…and was trying to get some ‘damages’ from me. I just played the dumb foreigner, went upstairs, and turned off the A/C. And began to sweat, I’m sure. Anyway, here’s a look at my building, the Meherabad, and the ground-floor shop that’s still there, selling weird and wonderful statues and whatever else:

Meherabad

Walked down Warden Road (now called Bhulebai Desai Road), saw the US Consulate on the left. I had gone there in ’92 for a July 4th dinner, and taken my girlfriend from Nagaland. Decent dinner, with real beef flown in. I remember asking my girlfriend if she liked the beef…and she, sitting their in her black dress, told me she preferred dog meat. Hopefully that exchange wasn’t overheard…

Also saw the Breach Candy Hospital, where a doc had pulled a tiny piece of glass from my foot about a week before I was going on a Himalayan trek. Wouldn’t want to have that procedure done in the hinterlands…

Finally, strolled by the Breach Candy Club, which has a pool shaped like India, I believe, and full of salt water. I had been a member there in ’92 and had really enjoyed hanging out there with friends…was an oasis in my crazy life back then. I felt myself, now, missing those days and the innocent fun I’d had.

Went to dinner that night with my ex-colleague Ashish from Monitor. He was making tie-die shirts for his kids when I got to his flat. Ashish is a real mile-a-minute guy and always has a dozen things going at once. He’s now on the ‘social change’ front at Monitor and devoting his attention to topics like affordable housing, better care for autistic kids, and the like. A real lovely guy…it was great to catch up with him. We went to a restaurant in Fort which specializes in black pepper crabs. And it was a hell of a feast. Earlier that day, for lunch, I’d gone to my old fave Mahesh Lunch Home, and chowed down a delicious plate of rawas tikka – basically, chunks of juicy spiced fish. That, with a plate of cheese naan bread and a cold Kingfisher, and I couldn’t have been more pleased.

Ashish dropped me at my hotel, and I did a few administrative things before hitting the sack. One was to toss my trusty Tevas, which had finally started to deteriorate and crack on the soles. It was hard to get ride of ‘em, and when I get home I plan to pick up another pair ASAP. Here’s the final look at the footwear that helped me stride across a dozen lands and countless miles…

Bye Tevas

Leaving Mumbai. Took a cab right down Marine Drive. Took it all in. The street beggars, some transvestites. I asked the cabbie if they were male or female, he said ‘neither’ and I thought that was a damn good answer. We drove by the Haji Ali mosquem and the juice center right by it. Whenever we stopped in the traffic, I sweat like a beast. The cabbie quoted me a high price for the trip – in my haze I had neglected to set it before starting off – and I drove it down to something decent. Reminded me that India’s always testing you, and you need to keep a semblance of mindfulness at all times.

I was feeling many things, and at the same time I didn’t want to be too self-melodramatic. I’d be back, and Mumbai would welcome me. The final ride down Marine Drive was memorable…I´d show you some shots but it seems I´ve reached my upload limit. Will address that problem next week…

Got to unlovely Sahar Airport and checked in. Read the paper and was reminded that the Chief Minister of Delhi is named Sheila Dikshit. I love it. Was laughing as I got on the plane to London. Goodbye India…you’re one of a kind!

Spent the flight reading and sleeping, two of my favorite activities. Uneventful flight…got to Heathrow after 9 or so hours. My buddy Ken was picking me up there. Waited forever for my bag…at one point, after waiting for 30 minutes, a voice came over the P.A. apologizing for the ‘lack of resources and manpower.’ Great…why were we paying airport taxes? Was this a first-world system? I hadn’t had a single issue with bags in India, but here in the U.K. I was being forced to wait. Traded some SMS with Ken, finally the bags came out and I met him in the arrivals hall.

Spent a fun few days in London. Stayed with Ken near Hyde Park. His wife Carmen and their two baby daughters were in Spain, with her parents down in Cordoba. Ken and I walked around London, catching each other up on our lives. We’re pretty good about staying in touch, so we were quickly able to get beyond the basics and dig deeper. Ken is doing absolutely great – his family is wonderful, he’s kicking ass at work (but feels occasional torture/stress, as I did back in the day), and has his plan in place. He intended to spend a few days with me in London, then go with me to Madrid, but work intruded and he had to fly to Turkey the day after I arrived. So we made the most of it, and promised to meet in Madrid a couple days hence. Ken’s high energy level and productivity contrasted with my general laziness and lack of output…I felt like a real slacker next to him. But we are what we are and I didn’t promise myself to ‘get with it’ – I was doing just fine in my own little world and vividly recalled the stress I’d known just a year before…

Went out that night with a random fun collection of old friends. Johann and Sarah from Monitor, Zoe from Tufts, and Yasmin, a friend of Ken’s. Of course, Ken couldn’t make it, but Yasmin was a real sport and fit right in. She teaches belly-dancing classes and I really should have insisted on a demo, but the wine was flowing and I forget to do and say many things that night. Had many laughs with this gang…nice chemistry. I imagine the wine didn’t hurt at all…

The next day, Wednesday, had lunch at Zoe’s in South London. She and her family have a nice house down there, and we had a bit more wine, some tuna and a salad that Zoe made. I’ve known Zoe since 1986, and we’ve more or less stayed in touch over the years, with a few multi-year gaps in there. Zoe was taking a few weeks between jobs, but was pretty busy with all the ‘other stuff’ that tends to arise when you’re not explicitly working. Enjoyed hanging out with her and trading old memories and stories. The night before, even though we sat side-by-side, it wasn’t easy to really get into a deep conversation as there were others all round and I wanted to spread myself out. I tend to arrange these dinners wherever I go…and they’re a lot of fun, but at the same time I wonder if I should keep things more modest. Would take more time, which is often scarce, but might be rewarding in a different way…

That night I hung out with Johann, drank a fair bit of assorted libations, went to dinner, and then waited for his wife Anu to return from a biztrip to Frankfurt. Johann and I worked together for years at Monitor and had a lot to discuss. He’s doing very well – working at Tate & Lyle, a American-British food products outfit, and generally enjoying life…he’s always been a bon vivant (like me, but with less anxiety) and I can appreciate that. Anu got home around 11 p.m., we hung out a bit, then I went back to Ken’s to crash and get up early the next day to fly to Madrid.

The flight was uneventful – although no gate was announced until minutes before the flight was set to depart. Anyway, got to the gate, got on the plane, and plowed through a back copy of The New Yorker (sent from Boston) by the time we landed. Ken’s flight from Istanbul landed at about the same time, so he met me and we got a cab into town.

Spain…a quick backstory. I first visited Spain in the early ‘90s. Not sure if the very first time was on a Darden (B-school) trip, or whether it was with Ken, who studied there in the late ‘80s, and later was based in Paris and thus fairly close to Madrid. Anyway, I found Madrid immensely appealing from day one, and have returned quite a few times over the past 15 years. I always stay, in Madrid, at the Hostal Matute, a cool little place off Calle Huertas, right in the thick of the mayhem, and right near the Prado Museum. My friend Don had told me about the Matute many years ago, and it’s honestly one of my favorite little hotels in the world. Everything is set up perfectly, and it’s very reasonably priced.

Years ago, right before joining Monitor, I had spent a few weeks in Granada learning Spanish (not well enough, of course). One of my memories of that time is sitting on a park bench, reading the International Herald Tribune after going for a run. Allen Ginsberg’s obituary was right there…I had seen him recite poetry and play his accordion only months before, in NYC. Weird to be sitting there reading about Ginsberg’s passing…but when you regularly read the paper these things aren’t uncommon.

My most recent Spain trip was in October 2004, when I came from Asia for Ken’s wedding in Cordoba. We had met at the Hostal Matute and stayed there for a day or two before going to Cordoba. The wedding was great fun and I was overjoyed for Ken, who was marrying a great girl. Really enjoyed myself the entire trip. And one night, in Seville, a bunch of us went looking for a bar to watch Game 7 of the Red Sox vs. Yankees American League Championship Series…the series in which Boston came back from an 0-3 deficit to tie things up. Someone had heard about a bar called Merchants which would show the game. But an hour before game time, when we asked around, no cabbies heard of Merchants, and we couldn’t find it listed in the phone book. Finally, I whipped out my Treo smartphone and surfed the Web. It wasn’t straightforward, but finally found a street listing for Merchants in Sevilla, we got into a cab and found the place (on rue de Castellanos, I believe). And there it was – scores of gringos outside and inside the bar. I think we had to climb in through the bathroom window, it was that crowded and they weren’t letting people in. There was no way I’d miss seeing that game…and we (Boston) won handily and it expiated years of doom and tragedy at the hands of the Yankees. Talk about catharsis…so when I think of Spain that’s always right in my mind.

This time, we got into Madrid about 2 p.m., checked into the Matute, and went out for an excellent lunch, with red wine, fino, pulpo (octopus), jamon iberico, etc. I had nearly all my favorite Spanish dishes immediately, and they were mighty good. We spent the rest of the day wandering around the city, and had a nice cup of hot chocolate with churros. That obviated any chance of my going for a run, but I didn’t mind. We walked back to the hostal to relax a bit – and Ken had to do some work – before going out to meet his sister-in-law for drinks and dinner. That was good fun…ate some more pulpo, tried some other tapas, and had a few laughs. There was an absolutely stunning Dutch girl at the table next door…she was with her man, but quite friendly and I had a few side conversations with them. I love these little experiences when traveling…reminds me of the generally decent level of humanity and friendliness out there.

Afterward, Ken and I hit a few bars and got into some deeper topics. He gave me some helpful advice on family matters, I probably internalized 10%, and we drank till 3 a.m. before stumbling home to the Matute. I was already ruing my laziness…I hadn’t written this blog entry on time, and would need to do so the next morning before having further adventures in the Spanish capital. Now it’s written and my head feels OK, so I’ll post this and then get out there into the crisp winter air to see what happens today, a random Friday morning in December of 2006. Over and out.

Inmates of Love…

Thursday, December 7th, 2006

A Spanish woman just told me that she really loves sex. But not ‘normal sex’…she only enjoys ‘tantric sex.’ I found that intriguing…and instead of trying to demonstrate to her that I know all the ins and outs of tantra, and fail miserably, I thought I’d instead take a breather, type up this entry, and let you know. But please – if you have any primers on tantric sex please forward them to me ASAP!

My friend Lisa described Goa as a ‘gigantic insane asylum.’ And she should know…she’s been here for 25 years. I didn’t ask her what sort of inmate she is, though. Anyway, it’s hard to believe that this is the last entry I’ll post from Goa – I take off for Mumbai on Saturday. It’s at least fitting that I’m sitting here with a major hangover. Last night was Ladies’ Night at Club Cubana, and the place was packed with thousands of sweaty bodies, many of whom in fact belonged to ladies. And there’s an open bar once you pay the relatively large cover charge, so there’s every incentive to imbibe freely once past the door. I spent most of the night hanging out with some very friendly middle-aged Russian women – the sorts who 1) aren’t prostitutes and 2) aren’t with murderous boyfriends. I got back to the guesthouse at 4 a.m. and am hurting very badly as I sit here…

I’m really going to miss this place. Memories abound…riding on my motorbike through the green fields, eating huge plates of king prawns at the Shore Bar, taking a sunset swim in Vagator Beach, the little kids selling black market petrol (and yelling ‘pet-rul!’ to passing riders), and on and on. I think I’ll be back before too long…

To backtrack a bit…I went up to Mumbai last Friday to see Prem Joshua’s band play a gig in the chintzy suburb of Bandra. Just went up for 24 hours or so, just to see the gig. It was at a newish nightclub called Seijo and the Souldish…I have no idea what that means, but the club was nice and very full. And I was on the guest list, so didn’t have the pay the presumably outrageous (for India) door charge. Instead, I spent all my money on drinks, which were quite good and strong. A couple of waitresses were going around with test tubes filled with various potions. I thought that stuff went out a few years ago, at least in the States. Oh well. I thought it was pretty cheesy, but the test tubes were free, so I had one. It was awful…so I only had two more.

The guys played all their hits and the crowd loved it. While listening/watching I had a moment of life clarity, in which I concluded that I really need to boost my writing efforts and get going on my book…I’ve been inventing various excuses, all of which are lame and insufficient. So without making a formal ‘resolution,’ I resolve to devote 2007 to writing my book and seeing if it flies. Hold me to that, dear readers.

Back to the music. Here’s a couple shots of Joshua, the frontman / sitar player / flautist / etc:

Prem 1

Prem 2

And you can find a short video clip of the gig I uploaded onto YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dLQM_n1yjdw. I tried to upload more clips but they’re huge and I don’t want to sit in this Internet cafe for the rest of my life. Anyway, go and check it out, if you like the music you can get Prem Joshua’s stuff on iTunes.

What to say about Mumbai? It’s another insane asylum, just much larger and more varied. Massive slums side side-by-side with some of the most expensive real estate in the world. As for the mentality, let’s consider some input from my friend Johann, a Mumbai native and worthy commentor on his home city:

‘Chattrapati Shivaji (whose statue and name are everywhere in Mumbai) was a guerilla fighter whose main claim to fame was that he stabbed the local Muslim king (Afzal Shah, I think) in the back during a meeting when they were discussing peace. Pretty sad when you think about (a) who the great state of Maharashtra chooses to venerate, and (b) the paucity of imagination about whom to name our monuments after.’

Exactly so.

Mumbai grows on you…but it takes a while. That said, it’s a clearinghouse of souls and very crowded. I had a tough time finding a hotel room on short notice, and had to engage the services of Zarine, a former colleague at Monitor, who is a real magician with these sorts of things. She got me a room at Gordon House in Colaba – a nice boutique hotel right in the middle of the action. And I am being literal – the disco was right below my room. That’s why no one else wanted it. I had zero problem with the noise, because I usually stay up late and don’t mind extraneous music and vibrations at any hour. And after I got back from Bandra, I went down to the disco, which is called Polly Esther’s and has a 70s theme. It was packed and I hung out there for 45 minutes till it closed.

After that, I walked across the street to the legendary Bade Miya, a glorified kebab stand which has some of the best late-night food on the planet. I had already eaten a lamb kebab there earlier in the evening – along with some Chinese food at the equally lauded Leopold’s Café – but needed another fix and wanted chicken this time. That was easily arranged…and I stood on the street with hordes of other drunkards who were also consoling themselves for not getting laid by stuffing their faces. Here’s a shot of Bade Miya – you must go there when in Mumbai:

Bade Miya

After that, to bed. The bed was comfortable and the room was airconditioned. My room in Goa just has a fan, and I’ve become accustomed to going without A/C. It was odd staying in a 4/5-star place and having all the creature comforts…reminded me of life on the road when I was working.

The next day I flew back to Goa on Air Sahara, the airline whose slogan is ‘Emotionally Yours.’ That doesn’t fill me with comfort. I’d prefer my airline to be ‘robotically yours’ or ‘stoically yours.’ Who wants pilots who cry when the weather turns bad? Whoever came up with ‘Emotionally Yours’ was obviously reading a sophomoric marketing text and taking the importance of appealing to consumers’ higher-order needs a bit too literally.

Before flying I went to the MPNL phone company office in Mumbai to try to track down some old friends, three crazy sisters with whom I spent a lot of time back in ’92 in Mumbai. I’ve seen two of them since, in New York of all places (one at a party, one on the train to the Bronx to see a Yankees game), but have no idea where they are now. I’d love to see ‘em before leaving India. Anyway, MPNL gave me a phone number, which I need to try before this coming weekend, when I return to Mumbai. Let’s see if it works.

Went to Panjim, Goa’s capital, to do a few errands and have lunch with Lisa. I showed her the Hotel Venite, my fave joint in Panjim, but she’s a vegetarian so we shifted over to Delhi Darbar, a Mughlai place that’s dark, airconditioned, and very good. We ate like pigs…discussed her business and opportunities…and just relaxed. I think Lisa has a real chance to expand her restaurant concept and make some serious money, if she wants to work even harder. That’s not a given. Anyway, we’ll keep discussing things and see where it goes.

After lunch I rode over to Old Goa, the former capital of Goa. It was abandoned around 1853 due to frequent outbreaks of cholera…apparently the Portuguese could build some amazing churches (see photos below), but couldn’t keep the water clean. Old Goa is now a vast open-air museum of churches (some still in use) and fields, quite a cool place. I visited during the 500th birth anniversary of St. Francis Xavier, who helped to Christianize India in the 1500s. People were everywhere, sitting on the lawn with their families, milling around, eating and drinking – sort of like India’s version of tailgating, but with Christian Indian women wearing traditional saris – very odd.

You can only imagine the level of rubbish all over the place. Trash cans aren’t in vogue in India. I think it’s time to work on that problem…

Old Goa 1

Old Goa 2

Old Goa 3

St Francis Sign

Stood in line to see the ‘relics’ (body parts) of St. Francis, and his body itself. The story goes that after he died, 450 years ago or so, his body didn’t rot…it remained whole and pristine for decades. Eventually people started grabbing pieces, and they’re scattered around the world. How would you like it if someone had your clavicle? Anyway, you really can’t see the relics, but the body is in a glass coffin high up on a pedestal, here’s what you can see:

St F Body

Every 10 years they properly display the body, which I suppose means they take it down from the pedestal and put it at eye level. That won’t happen again till 2014…book your flight now.

Perhaps the most amazing aspect of the entire day was observing Indians actually queuing up. Usually in India people just rush right up to the counter/door and ignore whoever else was in line first. It’s maddening to be at the train ticket counter talking to the clerk and someone just walks up next to you and butts in. I suppose it’s not surprising, given that one billion souls are all trying to survive here, but I would have thought that a former British colony would have mastered the art of the queue. Here’s rare footage of a true Indian queue:

Queue

Had some heated political arguments over the course of the week. Needless to say, I was right and everyone else was wrong. But beyond that, it became all too apparent that there are still loads of people who believe the Jews control the U.S. and the world. My first reaction to hearing this shit is to accuse them of lunacy/idiocy, or to tell them not to believe everything they read and hear…but there’s more to it than that. It’s all part of the so-called ‘war of civilizations’ that, amazingly, the U.S. and its friends seem to be losing, at least in the arena of public opinion. Many people really believe that Jews control the U.S., that Israel is its thin edge of the wedge, and that we’re collectively ‘the bad guys.’ I guess it’s time to admit that yes, we Jews do control the world. Kidding aside – how many Jewish Congressmen are there? And even if 20% of Wall Street is Jewish…the other 80% is not. These are the sorts of metrics used by those who believe that Jews control everything. And I always thought the Cabots and Lodges (and Bushes) were the real puppeteers. But hearing the sentiments of the hoi polloi, I don’t particularly want to see a Jewish President - why ‘prove’ their paranoia? I’d rather just continue to control things from behind the curtains…oh baby!

Perhaps it’s time for ‘us’ to devote more resources to marketing and alliance-building and less to stupid military initiatives. Which, of course, is code for impeaching President Fuckhead. The ‘Iraq Study Group’ just concluded that Bush’s Iraq policies have been a dismal failure. No kidding…we didn’t need a blue-ribbon panel to figure that out, or what to do next for that matter. We’re losing the military war, that’s for sure…but there’s no reason for us to lose the marketing war. So I truly hope that the new Democratic Congress doesn’t get mired in useless crap like bashing China and India for ‘taking our jobs,’ or ‘immigration reform.’ The U.S. unemployment rate is as low as it can go. Let’s get a move on and deal with the real issues and opportunities: ending the war; improving education; fixing the healthcare system; and, of course, giving yours truly a very large lump sum of money for writing this blog. Over & out.