The rest of my time in Solo was cultural and special, largely in part due to my many new and hospitable friends in Solo (and from Bali!) who introduced me further to Javanese culture and day to day life in Solo. Ajip had been developing a new variation on one of his Solo tours, and since my legs were still a little sore, Alex - a long time veteran of Java who makes Solo his second home - and I decided to christen his “Experiencing Traditional Solo” tour. It was a huge success!
We left early one morning, via very relaxing transportation, toured the local picturesque country side and made our way through the villages on the outskirts of Solo. Much of the traditional methods of food production and artistry is still alive in Java, and we observed tofu-making, the production of rice crackers and even the how arak - rice wine, the local alcohol- is made. One of the most interesting stops was a village which specializes in building the traditional Indonesian gamelan instruments - particularly the process which rough versions of gongs are shaped into raw versions and then polished by hand. Very impressive!
(One of these things is not like the other…)

The smiling faces at this village were SO amused at this picture!! - so Alex, Ajip and I decided to start telling people that I was from Lombok (another island in Indonesia).
On Saturday afternoon, I had the special privilege of being invited to Ajip’s wedding, held the following day. Although Ajip is from Solo proper, his fiancee is from a village south of the small town of Wonogiri, where the traditional Javanese wedding would be held. So a very sweet and gracious Darmi took me shopping on Saturday night to find something appropriate for a traditional Javanese wedding.
Sunday morning I was dressed and ready by 6am, and rode with Harry, a good friend of Ajip (and now good friend of mine!) to Ajip’s house to watch his mother and sister prepare for the wedding. By around 8am, two vans filled with parents, aunts, uncles, other family members, the chief and wife of their neighborhood community and myself took off on the two hour drive south of Solo to the village.
The designated waiting area for the groom’s family was carpeted with bamboo mats and rugs, with plenty of chairs, where we sat and waited for the men of family to change into traditional Javanese garb - both the men and women wore batik sarongs. The women wore beautiful and intricatedly beaded long sleeved blouses with jasmine flowers interwoven in their hair, piled and pinned on top of their head. The men wore embroidered sashes bound around their waist, with black formal jackets of Javanese detail and head coverings.
The wedding itself was held in a separate part of the village, in a covered area decorated with sashes, where the rest of the guests were sitting. I had assumed that my seat was with the guests, until we heard a voice projecting from the tent in formal Javanese, and the family guided me to start walking towards the wedding area - so along with family and friends in the wedding procession, I bowed and greeted my way down the greeting line of the bride’s family from the village, village elders, the village chief and his wife.
The central area, where Westerners would consider an altar, was beautifully decorated…like a Javanese palace, plush seats for the bride and groom, golden ornate decorative pillars and arches, flowers and richly colored fabrics. It was spectacular! The absolutely stunning bride entered first, with two younger Javanese girls who sat and kept her cool during the ceremony with two pink feather fans, followed by Ajip. After the ceremonial parts of the wedding which bound Ajip and his fiancee as husband and wife were carried out, the photographers began capturing the day in a series of pictures with the married couple and their families.
Traditional dancers, humorous clown characters, snacks of local gudel (coconut sugar and rice candy), and lunch (steamed rice, meat in coconut sauce, sambal and pickled vegetables) kept the audience engaged for the afternoon during the pictures. The bride and groom left at one point, returning with new clothing - which prompted another round of pictures!….Everything was finished by 2pm, and after much handshaking, head bowing, and giving thanks and blessing to each other, my wonderful wedding date Harry and I headed back to Solo - leaving Ajip in his new village, with his new wife for another five day ceremonial post-wedding tradition. What an experience!
On the way home Ajip’s family insisted I visit them for dinner, so Harry and I drove to the family’s home later that evening to visit with them, where we were warmly received. So much so, in fact, that they were upset to hear that I’d already booked my trip to continue on to East Java, as they insisted I stay with them for at least another week, to learn more about the real Javanese culture. Ajip’s family was warm, welcoming, hospitable and gracious, with beautiful hearts and open mind - very typical of the Javanese culture, it seems to me! The Javanese philosophy of life is truly a beautiful one, exemplified by all the people I’ve met so far, and I hope it’s made an impression enough on me to stay with me after my travels. Next time I return to Solo, I have a family and home to return to. Truly a special feeling.